From the title of this post, you might think that I am asking whether you are drinking tea or coffee? What are you steeping? That would be my topic….right? Actually, I am taking a different road and asking…what fills your cup with joy? Sometimes that gleeful feeling or just contentment, joy comes in many forms and may be unique to you. Today, a moment of good reflection that has you ask yourself the question – what fills your cup?
I like to take time to reflect on what brings me joy and contentment. It helps me to stay focused on priorities and what really matters. In the bible, we are instructed to remember those times when we have been delivered or protected, when we are joyful and content. So I am taking a moment to share with you, what fills my cup in hopes that you might be able to find the same moments. Come along on a short journey that I hope gives you some smiles.
Here are some things that bring me joy.
My faith…ultimately centering
Some time in the morning, to set the stage for the day, to inspire – to encourage – to readjust is critical to me. And doing this through study and time in the bible is key. When I have stepped away or don’t make time for whatever reason, I always find myself running back to this foundation.
My Family…my sisters
Family brings me joy. My children, now grown and with families, my sisters who have become my closest friends. Now admittedly, growing up we were not always close, but now – we are joined. We all share a love of afternoon tea and vintage china. Even in a virtual moment, we are crazy together and yet ground each other as we go through life’s journeys. We have each other’s backs….this brings me joy.
My Grandchildren…and their feet
Grandchildren fill my cup. I will frequently turn to them, cup my hands in a heart and ask them “What’s filling my cup?” Then pretend to explode and over fill my cup as I point to them. So many things come to mind but one in particular are their little feet. In shoes, in slippers, or barefoot, littles feet bring me joy.
Banging loudly on my piano, I listen while the little hands gleefully pound out a tune only to see little feet dangling at the bench. I remember that I started the same way in my grandmother’s house. Along with little bump-toe sneakers, a loud concert make me smile.
Or just slippers….little chubby feet squeezed into slippers and just enjoying some breakfast. These little feet remind me of old man slippers and I chuckle every time I see this.
Those moments when girls get to be girls, even when they are little, painting toes those favorite colors (of course with glitter) is a special moment. If you have done that before, you know the challenge of little toes…but precious moments of feeling like a big girl….”can you blow on them to make them dry quickly?”
What little girl doesn’t enjoy wearing dress-up shoes, even if on the wrong feet. You can hear the scuffing through the house, unbalanced and wobbling as they make their way around probably doing the morning shopping.
My Afternoon Teas…..let me serve you
One of my favorite things is to serve tea. Whether breakfast time or afternoon tea, in a group or just together, I love to create the experience for my guests. In the planning, the preparation and the serving, it delights me to see people refreshed. It can be simple or lavish, knowing that you feel pampered or special just fills my cup.
My Home…my sanctuary
I have moved several times in my life and in each house, I find a point of sanctuary, where I can sit and reflect. It is a place that I can have that quiet moment to think, pray, or just pause. With a cup of tea and my feet up….I take a deep breath and I find joy and contentment, a sanctuary for not only myself but for others as well.
My Stepping Stones….
Le’ts break this into some pragmatic steps that you might be able to apply to your life. I don’t claim to be an expert – but a sojourner who has found a path. Add to that journey, miles and years and you begin to look back and learn, look forward and continue. Here are some common sense steps that I try to do on a daily basis.
- Every day….begin to set the stage with a heart of gratitude. When I wake in the morning, I will literally say “Good morning Lord” and “thank you for the day.”
- A morning time of reflection. I start with spending time alone and in my bible. It focuses me and keeps me level.
- List out my blessings. Deliberately list out the good – the blessings, the challenging – lessons learned and ….but always end on the blessings. Especially at the end of the day, while I lay in bed and will go through my list..
- Compartmentalize. During a difficult time in life, a good friend taught me how to envision a box to put those things that were hard in my life. I would deal with them and put them in the box. Then up onto a top shelf went the box, put away. If I am unnecessarily dwelling on things, I learn from it and then toss it into my mental box and put it on my high shelf.
- Surround myself with positivity. Seems simple and almost offensive at times when all you hear and see is the difficult times in the world, but I know that aligning myself with positive people, identifying those things that work well for me makes me more joyful and ready to help others along the way. Identify those points of negativity and reframe it.
- Plan my day. I admittedly am a list person even for the routine daily stuff, so planning for me is helpful. As much as possible, plan the day. Idle time is not good for the soul.
- Don’t take myself too seriously – I think that life in all its seriousness provides us times of humor and for me, that frequently involves laughing at ME. I love to laugh at myself, even making sure that my friends and family know what silly or stupid thing I may have done, wishing them a good belly laugh even at my own expense.
- There is more than just me in this world. The world is big and there is pain and suffering. Its helpful for me to keep my place in it all in perspective….I guess you might say that you strive for humility. Take care of myself but realize, its not all about me.
Now on to making a cup of tea and readying an afternoon tea, I thank you for coming along….for taking a moment to hopefully be inspired to ask yourself….“What fills my cup?”